Are You Listening?

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Do we truly ever listen? It seems so simple merely stopping to take in our surroundings, listening to the limitless variety of individual sounds that create the symphony of life.

Do we ever stop to hear the little baby bird chirping in the tree, waiting for his mummy to come home? Or are we too busy, lost in our own thoughts, thinking about deadlines, planning how we are going to buy that next pair of Louboutins or ticking handbags off of our wish list.

Listening is an essential life skill and which is an important part of communication. Without listening, the transference of information fails and the foundations of society as we know it collapses.

My personal experience throughout high school was that the extroverted personalities were greatly favoured over the introverted ones. Being outgoing and able to talk the talk was seen as ideal. It apparently exuded confidence, leadership and other positive characteristics, whereas the introvert, the listener, was always chastised for being too quiet. For never participating enough. For falling short. Quite simply, for never being enough.

Being more positioned towards the introvert, I always felt like I was made to feel inferior to my extroverted classmates, who comprised the majority of my year level. This in itself confirmed to me that the listener was substandard, abnormal and unwanted.

To a large degree, in the society I live in, my observations from school still sadly hold true. The world to me consists of two types of people – the few who listen to others and those too busy admiring to the sound of their own voice. If you stop and truly listen, soak in your surroundings and marvel in it’s beauty, you will discover the most amazing details about life. You will be a much richer, wiser and more fulfilled person for it.

When I later heard in a psychology class that we need both introverted and extroverted people in this world, my initial response was of frustration and anger. The way it was described made out that introverted people solely play the role in society of listening and executing the ideas of the extroverts. It was as if introverts were merely required to balance out the selfish needs of those who lived for the limelight, fame and power so that civilization remained stable. Introverts were social slaves destined to sit at their desk working away diligently, silently and unnoticed, receiving little credit, recognition or thanks while the extroverts received all the glory and attention.

How is this fair, I asked myself? After much thought, I concluded that this idea the lecturer had described was totally damaging. She was talking about how our tremendously unhealthy society operates. Listening and verbal communication are skills that are equally important and a person that can execute both proficiently is destined to be successful in my opinion. Both skills should be emphasized and fostered equally in children, instead of being skewed greatly towards one extreme. For many reasons society at this point is churning out zero substance extroverts at an unprecedented rate with little focus or importance being placed on learning how to listen and value others.

If you look beyond people’s empty words, you will notice that most of what is spoken of is of little substance and at best is clever small talk and self-promotion. A lot of people actually know very little, as they have spent most of their life learning the art of “pumpery” (a.k.a. self-promotion) and their narcissistic tendencies leave them unable to critically consider the thoughts of another person. Without listening there is no learning, hence why these people have nothing of actual substance to talk about. As Eleanor Roosevelt stated, “great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people” (and my addition, the absolute smallest minds discuss solely themselves). What you are mentally capable of discussing largely depends on how good of a listener you are.

Beyond the literal definition of listening, is the more abstract concept of listening to yourself or your internal voice. Intuition or self-listening is equally important in life, as if you never take the time to live in the moment and truly absorb how you feel, you will never have a chance at happiness. When I listen and act upon what my mind and body tells me, I am lead to what I need. My intuition is like my inner Jimmy Cricket for happiness so it’s in my best interest to heed it’s advice carefully.

Whenever I’ve listened to my inner voice, I have made the best decisions. Such as de-cluttering my life of negative people, changing careers or working out how much exercise I need to be physically healthy (without overdoing it and being exhausted). All these little things quickly add up and contribute greatly to my overall happiness.

Ironically, what brought on the reflection in this post was a lack of being able to listen whilst wearing these Sudio Sweden headphones. The noise cancelling properties made it virtually impossible to hear my photographer, who was frustratingly shouting directions at me from 10 meters away. It made me realize how much I rely on my hearing, and this mentally triggered a sequence of ideas that formed the basis of this post.

 

Thanks for reading and listening guys!

 

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Adrianna is wearing a pair of “Regent” Sudio Sweden headphones, white Nobody Denim jeans, Zara crop top and Gucci sneakers. The bag is a large sized Chanel boy in black lambskin with ruthenium hardware.

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61 Comments

  1. March 8, 2017 / 04:05

    I absolutely love this post!! I am an introvert and I too sometimes think I have put here to be surrounded by, and listen to the people who love the sound of their own voice. It can be super frustrating. I love the noise cancelling headphones, so perfect. Also obsessed with your sneakers!

    xx, Elise
    http://www.sparkleandslippers.blogspot.com

    • March 12, 2017 / 19:59

      I'm glad that you loved the post Elise! It can sometimes be hard being an introvert. It's all about finding your voice and knowing how to use it.

      Thanks for your support!

      Adrianna xx

  2. Miri
    March 8, 2017 / 08:46

    WOW! I really like this article, Adrianna. And I totally agree with you about introverts and extroverts. I will remember Eleanor Rooswelt´s quote- it is so true. I think you are super smart, beautiful and interesting woman and I love the way you write. It is both funny and intellectual. 🙂

    Big hugs,
    Miri

    http://currentlywearing.com

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:09

      Thank you Miri. That's very sweet of you. I definitely appreciate all your lovely support! 🙂

      Adrianna xx

  3. March 8, 2017 / 15:57

    Ooh your body looks SO good in those jeans! It's so hard to find a pair that fit perfectly but when you do.. haha I've had some of mine for YEARS! Great post!

    Alya / <a href="http://www.moorizzla.com">moorizzla</a&gt; xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:14

      It really is! It took me a while to find my jeans but I absolutely love them now!

      Thanks Alya xx

  4. March 9, 2017 / 02:25

    Sometimes I forget to listen to my inner voice when I need it the most. It can be hard to push away other thoughts. Thanks for sharing!

    Jennifer
    <a href=http://www.effortlesslysophisticated.com/>Effortlessly Sophisticated</a>

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:21

      We're the ones who know ourselves the best so listening to our inner voice allows us to keep ourselves in check and moving towards happiness.

      I have found that assigning some time every day to think about how I feel and what I want has been beneficial for me. 🙂

      Thanks Jennifer xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:26

      I'm glad this has been helpful for you Sindy. I enjoy writing thought provoking pieces from time to time as they open up discussions between people and also with oneself which I think is most important. 🙂

      Adrianna xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:30

      Thanks for the support!

      Adrianna xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:32

      Thanks for your support Amy Ann. 🙂

      Adrianna xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:48

      The marina is very beautiful with the skyline and all the boats. It makes for some really beautiful photo opportunities at sunset.

      These headphones have excellent sound quality and a stylish design which is why I absolutely love them!

      Thanks Kate xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 20:58

      Mr. Mochi wasn't too impressed about that however we ended up working it out and he took some beautiful photos with the help of this amazing marina location!

      Thanks Jeanne xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 21:06

      Thanks for the support Jelisaveta xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 21:10

      We could all do with learning to listen a little better to others and also ourselves. It's definitely an important skill to know when to listen and when to speak up. 🙂

      Thanks Rach xx

  5. March 10, 2017 / 00:13

    I tend to be a real mixture of extrovert and introvert. I mean, by nature I am more loud, I think but I can be pretty introverted as well. Not to the extent of my partner, or some of my friends, but I like that time to listen and not feel like I need to 'perform' all of the time. I do agree with you that there is something hugely rewarding to stopping to take it all in and listen to the quieter moments. We miss things too often, but can learn a lot from the smallest things in our surroundings.
    xx Jenelle

    http://www.inspiringwit.com

    • March 12, 2017 / 22:45

      I feel that being either one or the other constantly can be exhausting and draining in different ways. A healthy balance between both where you have a strong sense of self worth and respect towards others to guide when you listen and when you take charge is more ideal. With the world being such a rush now being based so heavily on time constraints and being "busy" takes away from really recognizing and appreciating the world that we live in. It really is amazing once you take the time to sit back and take it in. You're definitely right that we miss things too often. Taking time to sit quietly by ourselves can be deeply satisfying and refreshing in our otherwise chaotic existence.

      Thanks for your thoughts Jenelle xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 22:46

      Thanks for the kind words Kim xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 22:49

      Thank you for your support Mary xx

  6. March 10, 2017 / 02:40

    I couldn't agree with you more, society has taught us that if we don't speak up or show leadership skills, we won't make it in life or we just won't be enough. The thing is listening and the ability to truly retain information is vital, as you've mentioned and in fact, most of the technological advancements or advancements in general within our society have been discovered or developed by introverts. They merely observed and listened to the needs of the society that was busy talking too much to resolve the complaints they had and so, they solved them. I do believe that we need both types of individuals in this world because without a leader, they'd be no given direction and without those who follow, they'd be no society. At the same time, I don't consider one more significant than the other, they're both equally important and are needed in order for a society and this world in general to thrive. Thanks for creating such an important dialogue and I love how your photos go along with the topic of today's post with the headphones 🙂 I also must say that I'm swooning over those Gucci sneakers, too! I hope you're having a great day so far, beauty!

    XO,

    Jalisa
    http://www.thestylecontour.com

    • March 12, 2017 / 22:14

      I definitely agree that no person should be seen as favorable over another, and that everyone has their own unique gifts that can contribute in a meaningful way to the world we live in. The problem is that a lot of people choose not to carry themselves with integrity and instead of contributing anything decent to society, they choose to self promote and live a meaningless existence.

      I don't particularly agree that we need people to be strictly introverts or extroverts. It's the way society operates right now but it doesn't mean it's right. These personality traits are both extremes on a spectrum, and I can tell you from experience that most introverted people actually dislike being the way that they are. It is often something developed in childhood through neglect, not being respected, being made to feel ashamed or experiencing abuse. As a result a person develops a withdrawn personality. As you could imagine it's not a nice feeling being overlooked by others or feeling like you don't know how to get your voice to be heard and this is only amplified at school. In my opinion what we should be aiming to foster in children is a balance of both traits. Knowing when to listen and also knowing when to be a leader and taking on responsibility in a respectful way. I think that the current school structure doesn't help this at the moment. It's definitely an interesting topic for further thought and discussion.

      These Gucci sneakers are so comfy to wear and I absolutely love them! Hope you had a happy and productive weekend.

      Thanks Jalisa xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 22:51

      I love the sound quality and how stylish they are!

      Thanks Annessa xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 22:53

      Thanks for the kind words Katherine xx

  7. March 10, 2017 / 11:46

    Stunning photos, the one of the city with the boats has such beautiful colours! Loved reading your post. I can completely understand these two types of people. Some people just can’t stop listening to their own voices but when it comes to another person, they’re just “listening” so they can’t plan what they are going to say next. A lot of people could learn something from this post! Most people are definitely the talkers in this day & age. I’m glad I’ve found another blogger who writes with substance. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Can’t wait to read more from you!

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    • March 12, 2017 / 23:00

      Thank you Shannon. Mr. Mochi does a great job with the photos and manages to capture both myself and the scenery wherever we are beautifully. I'm glad that you enjoyed this post as it was a more thought provoking one than usual. I have plenty more that I'm working on so keep an eye out for them soon! All the best this week!

      Adrianna xx

  8. March 11, 2017 / 04:20

    Such a great post! I'm an introvert and I could not agree with you more + you look amazing, babe!
    Have a wonderful weekend, love!
    xoxo, Vanessa
    http://www.WhatWouldVWear.com

    • March 12, 2017 / 19:54

      Thank you Vanessa. I'm glad you enjoyed the read.

      Hope you enjoyed your weekend too lovely!

      Adrianna xx

    • March 12, 2017 / 19:44

      My partner (Mr. Mochi) does a wonderful job with all the photography. He's beginning to get an eye for it.

      Thanks Merel xx

  9. March 14, 2017 / 21:53

    Great post and great look! I love your headphones and it's interesting how they bought on your ideas for this post! I consider myself an introvert too, and I think the ability to listen is really important! (I'm not very good at listening to my inner voice though!)
    Julia x
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com

    • March 16, 2017 / 06:33

      Thanks Julia. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I’m sure with time and persistence you’ll be able to listen to you inner voice. 🙂

      Adrianna xx

    • March 18, 2017 / 01:11

      Thank you for your kind words Sara xx

  10. March 24, 2017 / 02:09

    This was so motivating! I love how much thought and meaning you put into your posts. That Eleanor Roosevelt quote is a favourite of mine as well – and I totally agree with you on your addition about the smallest minds only discussing themselves. I feel like people can sometimes underestimate the power of being a good listener, which is so unfortunate. There is that saying about how we were given two ears and one mouth for a reason, and I think your post definitely emphasises that.

    Ciara
    http://www.ciarasalloum.com

    • March 26, 2017 / 14:46

      I definitely agree with that saying about having two ears and one mouth for a reason.
      Thanks Ciara 🙂

      Adrianna xx

  11. Astrid
    August 8, 2017 / 23:54

    Awesome article! I enjoyed the read. Thanks

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